There is a moment that comes up again and again in my work with women. Someone is talking about a pattern in their life, something that keeps happening in their relationships, or a feeling they cannot seem to shake, and somewhere in the middle of describing it, they pause.   'That sounds like my mother,' they say. And then, quietly: 'Who sounds like her mother.'   That moment of recognition, that is what we are talking about today.   What Gets Passed Down Without Anyone Meani

You have probably heard that phrase before. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Maybe you have even said it yourself. It sounds wise. It sounds true. And yet.   Most of the women I know are pouring from a cup that has been empty for years. They have gotten very good at it.   This week I want to talk about emotional labor, because I think it is one of the most important concepts for understanding why so many women feel depleted, and why so few of us talk about it honestly. What