All Posts

May 11 through 17 is Mental Health Awareness Week, and if you have been waiting for a reason to check in with yourself, this is as good a one as any. Here is something worth knowing: mental health is not a thing you either have or do not have. It is more like a dial than a light switch. Most of us are somewhere in the middle most of the time, managing stress, navigating relationships, trying to keep things together. The goal is not perfection. The goal is awareness. This year

April is National Stress Awareness Month, which has been observed since 1992. The original idea wasn't to pile on. It was to get people to stop treating stress like it's just part of the deal. And yet here we are. Most of us have gotten very good at functioning under chronic stress. Too good, really. We adapt, we adjust, we keep going, and at some point the stress stops feeling like stress and just starts feeling like life. That's worth pausing on. The first quarter of the ye

There is a moment that comes up again and again in my work with women. Someone is talking about a pattern in their life, something that keeps happening in their relationships, or a feeling they cannot seem to shake, and somewhere in the middle of describing it, they pause. 'That sounds like my mother,' they say. And then, quietly: 'Who sounds like her mother.' That moment of recognition, that is what we are talking about today. What Gets Passed Down Without Anyone Meani

You have probably heard that phrase before. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Maybe you have even said it yourself. It sounds wise. It sounds true. And yet. Most of the women I know are pouring from a cup that has been empty for years. They have gotten very good at it. This week I want to talk about emotional labor, because I think it is one of the most important concepts for understanding why so many women feel depleted, and why so few of us talk about it honestly. What

March is the month we set aside to honor women. The women who fought for things that matter. The women who built and raised and created and persisted. And I love that we do that. But I also think about the quieter part of women's history. The part that rarely makes it into the highlight reel. The exhaustion. The worry. The way so many women have learned to put themselves last and call it being strong. That is the part I want to talk about this month. What I See in My Office T

There's a moment that happens in my office more often than you might think. A parent sits across from me, tears in their eyes, and says, "I love my child with everything I have. So why does it feel like we're on different planets?" The love is there. It's always been there. Sometimes overwhelming in its intensity. But somewhere between bedtime battles, homework fights, eye rolls, and slammed doors, the connection got lost. The ease is gone. The closeness feels like a memory f

February is here, and everywhere you look, there are hearts, flowers, and messages about perfect love. But here in my therapy office, I see something different. I see real couples working through real struggles. I see the messy, beautiful truth about relationships. And you know what? That truth is actually hopeful. This month, instead of talking about romantic dinners and grand gestures, I want to talk to you about something more meaningful: the science of making love last. W

There's a version of anxiety that doesn't look like what we see in movies. No dramatic panic attacks in grocery stores. No obvious avoiding of everyday situations. Just this constant hum of worry that you've gotten so good at managing that nobody, including you sometimes, realizes how much energy it takes to keep everything together. You show up to work. You take care of your family. You respond to texts and pay your bills on time. From the outside, you're doing great. But in

There's this idea floating around that couples therapy is where relationships go to die. Like it's the last stop before divorce court, a Hail Mary when everything else has failed. But here's what we actually see in our practice: some of the strongest couples we work with come to therapy precisely because they want to stay strong. Think about it this way. You take your car in for oil changes before the engine seizes up. You go to the dentist before your tooth falls out. Why wo