Why you don't have to choose between gratitude and grief. I've been doing this work long enough to know that November hits different in a therapy office. There's something about this month that brings out the tension between what we're experiencing and what we think we should be experiencing. Last week, one of my clients came in looking lighter than usual. She'd had coffee with a neighbor, took a walk and actually stopped to photograph the fall leaves. Small things, but meani

A Different Way to Think About Thankfulness this November Every November, the gratitude reminders start. Your social media feed fills up with 30-day thankfulness challenges. Family dinners come with the inevitable question: what are you grateful for? And somewhere in all of it, you're supposed to feel more positive, more content, more happy. Except November isn't always like that.